Newsweek Shows the Failure of Autism Speaks, Parent-Based Autism Awareness

If you want to understand how the version of "autism awareness" promoted by Autism Speaks makes it more difficult for autistic people to be accepted by society, please read Michelle Cottle's Newsweek's article about the difficulties of parenting kids with special needs:

Then there is the 800-pound gorilla in the room: autism. In late March, the Centers for Disease Control issued an estimate that 1 in 88 children now fall on the autism spectrum. While debate rages over the roots of the “epidemic,” this swelling population is placing increasing strains on our health-care, education, and social-services systems. A study released last month put the annual cost of autism in the U.S. at $126 billion, more than triple what it was in 2006. The bulk of those expenses are for adult care. Geraldine Dawson, chief science officer for the advocacy group Autism Speaks, calls the situation “a public-health emergency.” And if you think things are tough now, she cautions, just wait until autistic teens start aging out of the education system over the next few years. “We as a nation are not prepared.”

Notice that Cottle felt no need at all to include the feelings of any disabled people, children or adults, in writing her article.  And that's not okay.  This is an article about what a burden we are, about how afraid people should be of us.

And TONS of parents of autistic people will read it, and love it, because it is honest about how difficult parenting us can be.  They will see themselves in it, which is an unusual and gratifying experience, so they will not notice or care that we are missing.

And there are plenty of parents who angry and bitter about their experiences who are eager to share their unhappiness with a general audience.  Hannah Brown is promoting a book, and doing so by going to as many major media outlets as she can and talking about how awful life is for women like her who have autistic children. She did this at The Huffington Post and The Today Show's blog.  She did it at The New York Times.  And Cottle got her into Newsweek, insisting again that the lie that 80% of parents of autistic kids get divorced must be sort of true because it feels true to her:

It is perhaps unsurprising that the pressures of parenting special-needs children prove too much for many couples. There is a commonly cited statistic that the divorce rate among the parents of autistic children is 80 percent. (Toucey mentioned it during our talk.) Recent studies have debunked this figure, yet it persists among parents because it feels so true. “Based on my and my friends’ experience, that stat makes complete sense,” asserts journalist Hannah Brown, the mom of a teenage boy with autism and the author of a new novel, If I Could Tell You, about the challenges of parenting autistic children. Of her son’s condition, she says, “I tried to fight it, but it completely took over my life.” Brown recalls that when she and her husband split up, she was initially embarrassed to tell the staff at her son’s school. As it turned out, she chuckles, “they were really good at dealing with it because they deal with it all the time!”

Now, I understand why it might feel good to the mother of an autistic person to read something like this.  I hope those mothers also understand why it would be hurtful to an autistic person to read this. 

I am very disappointed by the number of parents I respect, who "get it", who participate in media that excludes autistic people.  I would like parents to ask, when interviewed for something like this Newsweek article, "Are you talking to autistic people, too?  Because if you aren't, I'm sorry, but you cannot use anything from me." 

I wish parents who say they care about the voices of autistic people would tell the radio stations that want to bring them in for interviews that they will be happy to participate if autistic people are included, and to refuse to do so if not. 

Again, it's important to include a parent perspective.  But when that's all we get, autistic people are referred to only as problems and burdens and obstacles:

Part of what makes special-needs parenting so daunting is that the load often does not lighten with time—that golden day when one’s child is more or less self-sufficient never arrives. In fact, many parents report that the school years are by far the easiest. Autism Speaks’s Dawson says she frequently hears the shift out of school described as “falling off a cliff, because so few services are available after you exit high school.” In the wake of high school, she says, about 40 percent of these young adults have no activity outside the home, and the same percentage have no social activity.

This is what's wrong with April.

It too often turns into "be aware of how hard it is to parent an autistic child month."

And people who are seen only as burdens have a hard time getting others to see them as people.  Does Dr. Dawson ever stop to think that she is making it harder for the 60% of autistic young adults who are not getting out of the house at all to find places to go when she talks about nothing but how scary they are?