Movies: Two Aspergian Love Stories
Yes, people with Asperger's syndrome fall in love, and no, it isn't like the movies. But we deserve to see movies that show people like us, in situations as real and as unreal as the one ones that neurotypical people get to see every day. Neither one of these love stories about people with AS is perfect, but I enjoyed and saw myself in them both.
Adam is the easier to watch of the two, a "meet-cute" fantasy about a young man with Aspergers who watches his world crumble after his father's death, but finds love with a beautiful NT woman. High Dancy and Rose Byrne are compelling and gorgeous as the lovers, who find obstacles both in his AS and and in her immaturity. I cared very much about Adam, and this movie made me remember both happy and sad situations in my own life in a way that was overwhelming at points.
Mozart and the Whale is based on a true story, but it's not necessarily more realistic. Josh Hartnett and Radha Mitchell both play people with Aspergers, and give performances that are both effective and cringe-inducing. This is a story in which autism is a much more substantial obstacle, and I both appreciated that and was embarrassed by some of the characters' behavior. I actually had to stop watching in the middle of this movie and return to it later because some of the emotions it brought up for me were very intense. But ultimately, I did enjoy it, and I would recommend it, too.