"having a child with autism can be, in the eyes of some men, the dating equivalent of being an H.I.V.-positive crack addict with 30 cats"
I'm really sorry that Hannah Brown is still so upset about her divorce.
And I'd sad that she can't find a guy to date who will accept her autistic teenage son. But I'm guessing her need to complain nonstop about that son, her ex-husband, and every other male on the planet would probably make it hard for her to get a second date even if she followed her friend's advice and lied about her son's age.
Imagine you're a guy out on a date with someone who thinks of guys in general like this:
But as my friend said, having a child with autism can be, in the eyes of some men, the dating equivalent of being an H.I.V.-positive crack addict with 30 cats. The men around my age have children of their own to worry about, or, if they’ve never had children, it may be because they aren’t comfortable with even the best-behaved kids. No matter what I say, they will be afraid that they’ll end up having to deal with my son, and a kid like him is the last thing they want to add to their already complicated lives.
Middle-aged men in the dating pool are realists. They’ve got to make their child-support payments. They had enough trouble dealing with their own divorces. A difficult child is not welcome in their universe.
Would you be eager for a second evening with someone who sees you in those terms?
I would not.
No matter how many children of whatever type that person has or does not have.
I am sad for Hannah Brown, but I am disappointed in The New York Times for publishing this, especially since they often do such great autism coverage.
At least they didn't let her lie about autism and divorce.